Interpersonal relationships are necessary for our continuous existence. Without them, our lives would have virtually make no meaning. Inter-personal relationship brings about companionship. No matter how self-reliant you are, you can’t be alone, or live in isolation. Every needs companionship; also, adult need a matrimonial companion.
Related to interpersonal relationships is companionship; a quality of having a deep sense of belonging for others; being your brother’s keeper. Sense of belonging helps to ease the pain of loneliness, as well as improve one’s motivation, health and happiness. Relationship brings about independence – the mutual dependence on each other. It’s the willingness to stand beside another person and share in his/her burden. Every human is created a dependent and unique being. We live a life dependent on God or other human beings for survival. No one is sufficient for himself; we all need other people – family members, friends, colleagues, or even your children – to fall back on in times of crisis. If you don’t have an interpersonal relationship with anyone, no one would come to your help when you need them. The way you interact with others actually determines the quality of life you enjoy. Therefore, to have flourishing, budding, booming and blossoming relationships, you must develop these strong interpersonal skills.
Effective tools for a stronger inter-personal skill includes:
1. Love people genuinely and unconditionally
We must show genuine love to one another if we want to build and develop strong interpersonal skill.
2. Acknowledge, accept and respect differing positional roles of people
Relate with others, recognize and respect their positions and roles in the relationship, e.g. husband and wife, parent and child, employer and employee, boss and subordinate, pastor and church members, etc. This enhances good relationship.
3. Avoid Selfishness
People who are selfish tend to dominate and intimidate others; use them to accomplish own objectives and are intolerant of their weakness and imperfection. Selfishness destroy interpersonal relationships.
4. Communication clearly and carefully
Strong communication skills involve listening closely and expressing yourself clearly in person, over the phone and written communications. Aside your use of words, pay particular attention to non-verbal expressions such as your body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions. Non-verbal expressions are as important if not more important than verbal expressions in communication.
5. Observe personal ethics
Relationships are more stable when there is transparency, honesty, trust and integrity among people. Keep commitments and confidence to increase these virtues.
6. Resolve conflicts
Conflict is a natural and inevitable part of life. Diversity of opinion, perspective and ideas can be enriching. When opinions clash, try to understand people’s viewpoints and avoid black and white thinking. In most cases, resolving conflicts involves an honest and respectful expression of feelings. In some cases, it may be necessary to let go of attachments to unimportant issues.
We must always try to have good rapport with people, especially your family. You must love family members dearly and have a sense of loyalty and devotion towards them. You must also inter-relate with your in-laws in the spirit of love and never treat them bad, no matter the circumstances. In summary, see people as a unique opportunity to influence them positively.