The home is your child’s first classroom and you are his first teacher. Although the child may not utter any meaningful word yet, his little eyes see quite a lot. Be sure he is learning and storing in his brain the things he sees you do. Set a good example for him because he carefully watches and unconsciously mimics you and he will replicate your behaviour.
An undeniable fact is that your child will not always remain a child. As he grows older, your influence becomes more significant. He matches your precepts with your practises, to see if they agree. If they do, he follows with ease, but if they conflict, he gets confused and rebels against quickly than your mind can fathom. Therefore, to have a positive influence on your child, define your values – moral and human values – and follow through on them faithfully. It is no news that some children nurse the desire to be like their parents when they grow older, and the reason for that is not far-fetched. Their parents’ lives are worthy of emulation. They see in those parents who they want to be in the future. Are you what you want your child to become? What kind of model are you to your child? Live out the kind of life you want to see in your child when you grow old, and he will become even a better individual than you are.
Note that your child’s mind is tabula rasa (a blank slate) from birth, and whatever is inscribed on it stays for a long time. As parents, you have the privilege of inscribing anything you want on it first. Therefore, be mindful of what you inscribe on it. Let your inscription be what will profit the child for time and eternity, and ensure it is something other inscriptions that will be made later on his mind by socialization (the school, peer group, mass media, and other caregivers) cannot erase.
Remember, your child is watching whatever you do in his presence – good or evil, right or wrong. So, live right if you want him to grow upright!