Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present. It is a state of being; a point where you decide to look beyond your imperfections and find that nuggets that you admire and have passion for. It is commonly said that: Friends show their love in times of trouble, not in happiness. Many conscrue Happiness with Success; yes, they are inter-twinged but:
Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.
So its not about being Successful but deep love for what you do; Helen Keller puts it this way:
Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.
Here are Five (5) Rules of happiness you must apply everyday:
1. Surround yourself with Positive People
Surround yourself with people who have dreams, desire and ambition; they’ll help you push for and realize your own!
This is often the hardest part of being happy, acknowledging the people you hang around with may not best for you, choose to surround yourself with happy and positive people, and relationships who accentuates the goals you want to accomplish for yourself. If you are around people who are happy with their emotional state, that feeling will be infectious.
2. Appreciate who you are
By taking the time to stop and appreciate who you are and what you’ve achieved – and perhaps learned through a few mistakes, stumbles and losses – you actually can enhance everything about you. Self-acknowledgment and appreciation are what give you the insights and awareness to move forward toward higher goals and accomplishments.
Don’t disregard the great things you currently have in life. Take a few seconds each day to think about the wonderful things, people, children, pets that are part of your life. These few seconds will give you the opportunity to focus on the positive things in your life and will often change your outlook on bad days.
3. Treat yourself
Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, that’s when you’re most beautiful.
Oprah once said: “you must pay yourself first no matter what”, with that being said you have to take time each day and pay yourself, it maybe a compliment, a great lunch, or some extra alone time, these are all ways to subconsciously put yourself in a better mood.
4. Plan for yourself
“Life is what happens to us while we are making other plans.”
“A goal without a plan is just a wish.”
Create a realistic plan for goals that you feel will make you happy. Sometimes it’s not about completing the goal, but the effort and hard work you put to get there. Hence, the harder you work the better you will feel about yourself because you will feel better about going after something you value. If its not valuable to you, It will not be worth it to work or make the sacrifice to achieve the goal.
5. Accept Failures
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
When something goes awry, or you fail at something don’t wallow in self pity. People who are happy accept their failures as a learning experience and move on. You can have a million failures; all you need is one great success moment. Mathematically speaking it’s statistically impossible to have all failures, you will eventually hit upon success, wallowing in self pity just make the failures last longer. Life is full of so many wonderful people, places, and things. There will always be challenges and roadblocks to overcome. Choosing to focus on being happy and appreciating the things that are great in your life will provide you the necessary tools, and confidence to overcome the challenges and roadblocks you are facing, or will soon face.