The advancement of a child is a result of the varied influences he absorbs from his immediate environment – the parents, the school, peer groups, religious background, and the mass media. children are very observant. They are always aware of the things happening around them, though it may not be obvious to the people around, but they are easily influenced, especially (in the first two months); they notice everything. Hence, the words spoken and the actions of the parents at home and people around them, register on their minds, which at this stage is highly impressionable. Learning experiences at childhood – whether planned or unplanned goes a long way to shape the personality of a child for a lifetime.
“Nothing can bring a real sense of security into the home except true love.” – Billy Graham
As parents, it is imperative to understand that efforts in child training can’t be undertaken in isolation. There has to effective collaboration among parents, teachers, and other caregivers. It will be self-deluding for a parent to think that the upbringing of a child solely rests on him or her and thereby block our any form of input from either spouse or people around.
Moreover, the cliche, “Do as I say, not as I do” does not work with children. They are not very good at following instructions, but they are very good imitators of what you do. Sheer hypocrisy makes a parent scold a child for what he himself does at will. Take the issue of respect for instance. A mother who complains about being disrespected by her children may also be guilty of disrespecting her husband right before those children. On the other hand, some husbands openly scold their wives in the presence of their children. Imagine a boy who threatens his mother for scolding him:
“You just wait till daddy get’s back, you will be in trouble!”
He is not only disrespectful, but also very confident that his father will take his side. This is what happens when a parent vehemently opposes the other parent for correcting a child. Children who are trained not to be subject to their parents’ authority may grow up having problems with submission to constituted authorities. It starts from the home, then transcend to the school, the church and the society at large. Even if teachers and instructors in school and other institutions make effort to curb the trait, there might be little or no impact on the child if there is no reinforcement at the home front. The child might eventually grow in an adult who sees disobedient as no big deal.
PARENTS!!! What your children becomes tomorrow might be a reflection of who you are, and of course, the various influences those children have been exposed to. It therefore behooves you to change from every negative habits capable of derailing your children. Remember,
You can’t give what you don’t have; you can’t bring up your child to be god-fearing when you are not.